What is self-love? Does self-love mean, for example, buying chocolate ice cream for yourself when you are sad? Or, quite to the opposite, does it mean not eating any chocolate ice cream so that you will stay healthy?
In my view, self-love means really tuning into yourself and finding out what feels right to YOU in each moment. One moment, self-love can mean eating ice cream, in another moment it can mean not eating ice cream. One day, it can mean going to a boxing class, another day it can mean laying on the coach doing nothing. Only you know. It certainly means, for me, being soft with yourself, no rigid, strict rules but self-forgiveness and self-compassion. It is okay what you do. It is okay what you do not do. You are okay the way you are.
Yes, self-love, in my view, means really accepting yourself the way your are, including your strengths and weakness. Even more than that, it means being able to lovingly look at yourself completely non-judgmentally, without even thinking about such things as strengths and weaknesses. Just seeing yourself as YOU, a beautiful being.
It means caring less about the opinions of others compared to your own truth in your heart.
Here’s a little secret about me: I love dancing and singing when no one is watching, just expressing myself and having fun. And I will now share a video with you that I recorded originally just for myself, for fun. I invite you to observe your own judgment when you see a video like this from someone who “should present herself professionally”. I invite you to be touched and inspired to be yourself and to dance in the rain, if you feel like that, and to show yourself with your uniqueness to the world, even if other people talk about you, judge your appearance, your skills, your every movement or even wonder if you have lost your mind. I love losing my mind. I invite you to be free, to be you.